Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Confession,,,

I am very hard on myself. I am very sure that I am walking guilty book. Practice what you preach is something we say, we advice and we expect people to do. How many times you do it?

This is a confession of a something I did, in spite of some one treating me same and I was hurt, How could I behave that way?

Some close friends let us name them as, Dheeraj, Meera, Amit and Sohini. They managed to create a misunderstanding. To come to clean to each other they found me as an easy scape goat.They decided to go on a power trip and came to my house to display a  very low level of character. Somehow they did not plan properly and the whole act bounced back on them.

Somehow we all behave like high school kids somewhere and sometimes. We all need to agree that.

So these guys on power trip abused their power and started preventing me to go to events, making it conditional for others not to invite me.

Let us name this character as Vijay, who is so called politician of Bay Area. I was to Emcee his show and was helping to organize his show, Vijay comes to my house with his wife and says Dheeraj asked him not to make me a part of the event, so please do not come. They are very powerful people and I need them. Please understand as friend and do not come. He did not return 200 $s that I gave as donation though,

Pretty sad incident and I was hurt. I decided not to do this to anyone. I will not succumb to pressure ever and will not treat anyone the way I was treated,

AND I TREATED SOMEONE LIKE THAT UNKNOWINGLY.. But fixed the mistake.

While arranging the first Voice of Bay Area the emotions were high, the energy was at peak. Was looking for judges. Invited and spoke to lots of people. So basically finalized some. My son used to learn Piano from a teacher let us name him as Satish Chopra. So I come across this music teacher who is senior citizen and well respected. Let call her as Archana Gupta. Archana Gupta is well known singer and comes out to be very caring person.

I sent out communication to all the shortlisted judges including Satish Chopra and Archana Gupta for availability. Archana Gupta confirms but not Satish Chopra. After a week Archana happens to ask the rest of the panel for judges. The moment she comes to know that Satish Chopra has been invited she goes ballistic. She freeked out and it was like how could I dare to invite Satish Chopra.

And then I hear couple hours lecture from Archana Gupta, about Mr. Satish Chopra, how he was bad to her ex husband. So somehow I derived that she will not judge if Mr. Satish Chopra comes in as a judge. And she went schizophrenic on phone.

HERE I SUCCUMB TO FAVOR AND DO NOT FOLLOW UP...

And I dropped the idea of having Satish Chopra on judging panel. Anyways I did same as someone did to me. Only thing I could feel better was Satish Chopra never returned back my message as he was not well and he did not read it.

Now again Archana Gupta tried to block him saying he can not be in same room as hers. She wanted to sponsor next show with condition that Mr. Satish Chopra is blocked from coming.

I could not sleep with stress that I did something bad under someone's pressure. So now decided to drop people like Archana Gupta from life so I could have more blissful life...

Never succumb to pressure from anyone and do injustice...





Thursday, June 9, 2016

Age Gracefully

This is story that happened with me and I have just changed few names to maintain privacy of the person.

It was a party at ICC and I was enjoying. One old looking lady may be in her 65 + age with couple of friends bumped in to me. I did not know anyone of them. 

So this lady named Savita in this story stopped by me and asked me are you Jagruti from Pravasvani. 

I said yes. 
She said do you know Roger? (Changed the name of the person) 
Being it sudden I said no. 
Her next sentence was are you sure? 

And I really did not know who Roger was. Then she said he works with you in Pravasvani. And I remembered that one person has been coming to help the station lately his name is Roger. He once came when I was doing 10.00 PM show to do maintenance. 

Then I said yes I know him. And here she goes.. Why are you pretending that you do not know him, are you not dating him? I never knew what to say. But I was actually amused at this woman's guts and immaturity too. I just said not that I know of. But if you think I am and then may be.

I managed to click her picture in my camera. I managed to get Roger's phone no. and called him that I have heard I am dating you. His reaction was "I wish I could". Anyways everything closed and we laughed. I sent the picture of the lady to him and he also did not recollect. 

This lady happened to meet me at an event after couple months. I immediately recognized her and first thing I asked "IS BAAR KAUN DATE KAR RAHA HAI?" And she tried to avoid me. Again I went to her when she had some young couple with her. I actually confronted her raising my voice "Who gives you right to talk about us and ruin our reputation?" The young couple turned out to be her Son and Daughter in Law. Son jumped in saying what happened. I explained him what happened. It was such a embarrassing moment for both. They apologized and left. 

The reason I wrote this blog is.. When you grow old you need to grow old with grace.
 It is difficult to accept aging but at the same time when you thought your Kids behaviors reflects on you.. Your behavior reflects on your Kids. 
Your age has an experience and maturity, use it for productive purposes. 
Do some creative work rather than behaving that makes you look stupid. 
Every time your behavior can not be excused for your age.
It is time to set an example for Grand Kids, not embarrass them with your behavior. 
It is painful to see our elders getting our of control for egos, attention, frustration. Age gracefully, earn respect. 

Think about the Kids when they receive your complaints for that age!!!!!

Being Woman

This is my thought about being a woman... When I was a kid my father supported me to learn swimming. When they saw me packing swim suits they told my father "You need to control your daughter" You should not ALLOW her with so much of freedom." My husband manier times faces verbal diarrhea of society saying how do you manage her? Why can you not control her? I definitely take it as complement as they agree that they can not handle my personality. But to their surprise after all this, my father, my husband and my son just tell me, that they love me and looks like you are doing well for yourself. These are the men who treat the woman the way they are supposed to, disturbing the men of society who do not think the woman need to be treated equal. After the Stanford incidence I feel so disgusted with the statement of the father of rapist. And I thank god that I met Man who respected me as woman all along. I wish someone tells that girl a Meerabhai Bhajan.. Keep fighting we are with you. Dogs will bark and only thing they can do is bark. This is for all the people who bark at me or at all the woman who are struggling for their rights 'BHARI BAJAR MAAN HATHI CHALYO JAAY RANA SHWAN BHASE CHHE EMA HATHI NE SHUN THAY RANA"